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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %JESUS CHRIST SERVANT MARTYR SACRIFICE INTEGRITY 891020 Christians need to be careful how they interpret Jesus' call to sacrificial service as his disciples. The example of Jesus' giving his life to save sinners from their sins is tempting to codependents. Those who seek to follow the example in naive ways may sacrifice their own integrity in futile efforts to save the lives of addicts who refuse to be honest and learn from their mistakes. Many self sacrificing codependent servants have illustrated over and over that such a sacrificial technique does not work. The dishonest technique is dishonest and confirms the dishonest sinners in their sins. It is futile to believe that dishonest self sacrifice will save anybody from their sins. Sin has to do with alienation. Dishonesty has to do with alienation. Alienative self sacrifice will not help anybody transcend their alienation. Whenever a codependent dishonestly sacrifices self in the service of a manipulative dishonest addict, each is encouraging the other to be alienated through selfish dishonesty. Thus does sin abound. The dishonesty of codependents' service to dishonest addicts is a self-serving dishonesty in each case. Dishonesty lacks integrity and leads to personal and communal disintegration. Dishonest people are not servants in the style of Jesus of Nazareth: who said he was the truth,the way and the life. Dishonest people manipulate and coerce each other in ways utterly uncharacteristic of Jesus of Nazareth; they are not his servants, but in tragic misleading ways they are each other's dishonest servants. They are misled by misleading disintegrative ideals and values. The dilemmas of addicts and codependents are not technical problems, but dilemmas having to do with their misleading ideals, values, priorities, assumptions, presuppositions, attitudes; their habits of heart, mind and behavior. They learned their habits of heart, mind and behavior from significant others in home, school, and work settings. Role models are powerful even when they are misguided. We model those closest to us most of the time. Even in rebellion we tend to be lead by the habits of mind and heart of those against whom we rebel. If we cannot be honest about such matters little else will matter. For the Christian Churches to stop encouraging their members, addicts in their addictive behaviors; the Churches must clarify their doctrines, teachings, hymns, and Sunday School lessons so that Christians will be skilled in recognizing the difference between Honest Love on the one hand, and Dishonest Codependent Behavior on the other hand. The difference is the difference between Heaven and Hell! (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================