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This is http://www.essayz.com/a8906171.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %PSYCHOLOGY HABIT MIND HEART VICTIMS ADDICT CONTROL 890617 Some people seem to be victims of things which are beyond their control. They seem not to have the good luck which other people have, and seem to be in the need of more help and sympathy than is the case for others. Other people seem not to be the victims of things beyond their control. They seem to be the beneficiaries of good luck and seem to have a generous supply of help and sympathy which they can share with those who have little. The first group of people often end up playing the role of addicts; i.e., people who are constantly yielding to the temptation to be dishonest about their compulsive use/abuse of alcohol, caffeine, nicotine, other drugs, food, sex, work, religion, persons, etc. The second group of people often end up playing the roles of rescuers of the victims playing the first kind of roles; they are the enablers of the dysfunctional habits of mind and heart which characterize the people who constantly seem to be victims of things which are beyond their control. The second group of people seem to have the power to maintain control of themselves and of situations, and they seem to have the power to help the victims who can not help themselves. It is difficult for people to perceive such relationships clearly enough to get beyond appearances. What seems to be the case is often not really the case. The victims are often in control of the enablers; manipulating them by dishonest habits of mind and heart to feel sorry for the unfortunate condition which they maintain through their repetition of mistakes from which they refuse to learn anything. The enablers are often not in control of the addicts or of their own habits of mind and heart; for they are participants in the addicts' collusive games of mutual self deception. The enablers can not admit that they can not control the behaviors of the victims whom they enable, and cannot control their own habits of mind and heart as they react thoughtlessly to their victims' dishonest cries for rescue. The psychology of the role of victims and enablers is not a transparent psychology. Few features of these personal relationships are objectively clear. An objective analysis is not adequate to achieve an understanding of or power to control the situation. Those who are full participants in the relationships are not able to perceive the dynamics of their personal transactions. Transactional analysis cannot be achieved by apparently objective or by thoroughly involved participants. People who are victims of an addiction to any set of exclusive habits of mind and heart cannot understand or control the behaviors of addicts. Such people rarely learn from the consequences of their misguided system of values and ideals. Enablers who rescue them from the tragic consequences of their misguided system of values and ideals rarely confront them in a charitable way regarding the tragic dynamics of their alienative ideals and values. They usually yield to the temptation to be dishonest about the consequences of their habits of mind and heart with regards to values and ideals. Because of their failure to be open and honest about such tragic consequences, they do not learn to appraise the propriety of their misleading ideals and values. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================