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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SECURE FREEDOM KNOW REFLEXIVE SELF RELATIONSHIP 890130 Integrative communities give their members the secure freedom to know themselves, each other and their intimate relationships in reflexive ways. Addictive and codependent communities put their members on the defensive regarding their reflexive knowledge of themselves and their intimate relationships-- for such knowledge is a threat to the games of mutual self deception which define the paradigms of collusive addicts and codependents. Highly regulated collusions lead to compulsive behaviors which are disintegrative because of the violence which is characteristic of the manipulations and coercions of collusive regulations. In highly regulated collusive communities people can not be permitted to be free to know themselves or their intimate relationships in open and honest reflection---for such reflexive knowledge is a threat to the dishonest community's most basic technique; mutual self deception. Integrity can not be achieved through mutual self deception. Integrity is what people seek most earnestly. Collusive addicts, codependents, and technocrats pretend that they can achieve what people most earnestly seek, but presume it can be achieved through increased effort and sophistication which entail mutual self deception as an essential technique. The logical impossibility of the task is not seen because the paradigm defines the perception of the impossibility as a taboo experience. The enjoyment of communal integrity is impossible without the transcendence of such collusive taboos. The transcendence of such collusive taboos is a miracle to the colluders who define the perception of most reflexive truths to be taboo. Such an escape from their collusive prison is perceived as impossible and terrifying in the subconscious; yet it is not perceived in any conscious way. Those who escape are perceived as traitors who threaten the pseudo integrity of the collusion which is the only powerful reality which is known inside the paradigm. Those who escape perceive their escape and salvation as a miracle given to them and accepted without conditions; not the technical achievement of a desired and/or intended goal, purpose or ideal. Salvation is not the technical achievement of a desired goal. Salvation is the acceptance of the secure freedom to know ourselves and our intimate relationships reflexively. Such knowledge is taboo according to our collusions from which we need to be freed. We do not consciously want salvation, for salvation is terrifying because it entails the violation of the most fundamental injunctions of our deceptive ways of collusive living. Conversation in intimate honest dialogue is a key to salvation. In honest conversation there is a turning around, a conversion, a revolution, a repentance from mutual self deception. Salvation is the escape from the prison of collusive games of mutual self deception which characterize addictive, codependent and technocratic communities which are disintegrating. Families, communities, states, nations and empires fall when they disintegrate through the propagation of collusive, addictive and codependent patterns of behavior. No technology can compensate for the disintegrative ideals and values which are central ingredients in their respected patterns of behavior. No scholarship or research within the context of their respected patterns of behavior can point the way to integrity. The goal of personal and communal integrity cannot be seen therein, and so no technique can provide the means to achieve the goal which cannot be seen. To technocrats, salvation has to do with means to achieve known goals. To technocrats, salvation does not have to do with accepting the miracle of the gift of personal and communal integrity for it is perceived as the terrifying disintegration of technocrats, ground of being secure. Salvation can not be planned. Redemption is not achieved. Integrity can not be controlled. Reconciliation is not a goal, it is a way of being with integrity. Goals are not dynamic. Salvation, redemption, integrity, reconciliation, conversation, conversion and heaven are all dynamic realities which can not be planned, achieved or controlled by any person or institution. Those who know these truths are free to be themselves with integrity within communities of people who are free to know themselves and their intimate relationships reflexively in open and honest conversations which are dynamic and so are eternally changing in integrative ways. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================