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This is http://www.essayz.com/a8901192.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SELF PUNISH MASOCHIST ADDICT CODEPEND FAIL LEARN 890119 Some people through their own decisions and actions put themselves in situations which punish themselves. They do not seem to learn from their mistakes how to avoid putting themselves into self punishing situations. They behave as masochists in repeatedly inflicting upon themselves trials and tribulations. Usually such people are addicted to something: alcohol, drugs, work, sex, technology, power, food, codependents, etc. Their masochistic behavior is part of their addictive behavior, and vice versa. Addicts challenge their codependents to rescue them from the situations into which they put themselves by their masochistic decisions and possessive actions. The greater the rescue, the more the addict's needs for codependent support are fulfilled. The more foolish to masochistic decisions and actions; the greater the challenge to the codependent is, and the greater the possibility of a stupendous rescue. Each successful rescue of a masochistic addict teaches the addict that the process of making decisions leading to self punishing actions is a rewarding process. The cycle of such decisions and rewards needs to be broken for addicts and their codependents to recover health, peace, and tranquility. The dynamics of the cycle need to be recognized, discussed and transcended. This will require greater openness and honesty than is characteristic of the typical addictive society. The recovery of health for addicts and their codependents will require the recovery of the addictive society of which they are contributing members. Each member of such a society contributes in her and his own way to the perpetuation of the pattern of behaviors which maintains addicts in their masochistic patterns of behavior. Each needs to recognize the way they are contributing to the dynamic process of disintegration, and each needs to learn how to contribute to a compensating process of personal and communal integration. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================