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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CONCEIVE REALIZE FULFILL INTEGRATE CONTEXT LEARN 881129 One of the first steps towards health for a disintegrating community and its members is to work on creating integrative contexts within which people will be free to learn together from their mistakes. In the absence of such integrative contexts their can not be personal and communal learning from mistakes made; and so mistakes will be repeated over and over. To learn from mistakes there must be fail-safe contexts in which people feel free to take risks and trust others to help them learn from their mistakes in open and honest dialogue regarding why choices were made, and what the consequences of the choices were. The creation of integrative contexts begins in the conception of the possibility that they might exist, and in the realization of what their features might be. Imaginative members of a disintegrating community can conceive of possibilities which others may not be able to imagine. There needs to be discussion of those possibilities, and of the desirability of realizing what they are, both in imagination and in reality. The recognition of the need for such contexts in the face of disintegration is an important first step to putting an end to the disintegrative games of mutual self deception which characterize personal and communal disintegration. The collusive games of mutual self deception of addicts and codependents continue so long as they do not perceive the possibility of more desirable alternatives. The conception and sharing of those more desirable alternatives is an essential aspect of the recovery process. It is a difficult aspect, because the rules of the games act to conceal the alternatives as if they were a deadly threat the participants in the games. The transcendence of that perception of them as a threat, is a first step towards recovery. Overt threats will not facilitate such transcendence. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================