This-essay is a7909111.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %DESIRE FOR OTHERS 790911 Jack desires that Jill be fulfilled by the fulfillment of the desires he has chosen for her. Jill desires to be herself and to be fulfilled by the fulfillment of her own desires---which are not the same as the ones which Jack has chosen for her to have. Jill experiences Jack's desires for her as a violation of her integrity---for Jack's desires for her do not respect her own desires. Jack's desire is not that Jill's desires be fulfilled, but that Jack's desires for Jill be fulfilled to satisfy Jack's desires. Jack does not get fulfillment out of the fulfillment of Jill's own desires---but out of JIll's fulfillment of the desires that Jack introjects into Jill. Jack will not let Jill be herself with her own desires. Jill refuses to be Jack's Jill---and seeks to be herself. Jack resents Jill's refusal to be fulfilled in the way Jack has chosen for her to fulfill himself. Jack feels that Jill does not love him because she will not give him what he most desires---her fulfillment according to his conditions. Jack desires the best for Jill. Jack loves Jill and wants Jill to be fulfilled. Jack knows what is best for Jill. Jack chooses the best for Jill and seeks to give her the best possible desires. Jack seeks to fulfill for Jill the best possible desires she can have. Jill is unappreciative of his efforts on her behalf. Jack does not understand why Jill does not appreciate his efforts to give to her and fulfill the best possible desires that she could possibly have. Jack suspects that his techniques are inadequate. Jack seeks to improve the techniques he follows in his efforts to fulfill his desires which he has given to Jill. Jill does not understand what Jack is trying to do. His efforts do not make sense. Jill can not understand what desires Jack has that prompt him to behave in such strange ways. She can not imagine that Jack presumes to give her desires and then fulfill those desires in order to fulfill himself without regard for her own unique desires. Jack regards Jill as an extension of himself. Jill does not regard herself as an extension of Jack, nor Jack as an extension of herself. Jack and Jill lack mutual awareness and mutual understanding because they are not in open dialogue. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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