This-essay is a7904232.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %LOVE DESIRES RESPONSIBLE-1+790423 %MUTUAL SHARE ENJOY JACK-1+790423 %PROVIDE NEEDS AFFIRM-1 790423 Jill loves Jack; i.e., Jill is in a relationship of love with Jack. Jill regards it as natural to share her desires with Jack, to enjoy mutual awareness of desires--- without necessarily intending to take overt action to satisfy such desires. Jill regards such sharing of desires as the natural expression of love. To not share felt desires would be to fail to love. Jill feels that if Jack loves her Jack will appreciate and acknowledge her expressions of desires, even when there is no intent to take overt action to satisfy such desires; for there can be mutual satisfaction in mutual awareness of desires apart from action to fulfill the shared desires. If Jack does not acknowledge and take delight in her expressions of her desires Jill gets messages that Jack does not love her and Jill's understanding of appropriate expressions of love are challenged/undermined. Jill may conclude that Jack does not love her and/or that she does not know how to love Jack. Jack loves Jill; i.e., Jack is in a relationship of love with Jill. Jack feels a responsibility to be responsive to Jill's needs, to take action to meet her needs, to satisfy them. Jack is a man of action, a provider. He is proud of his ability to provide, and regards providing for needs to be met as the natural expression of profound love. When Jill makes known to Jack what her needs are, Jack feels a responsibility to make provision to meet Jill's needs. Jack feels responsible for meeting all of Jill's natural, normal, legitimate, reasonable needs. For Jack to acknowledge and affirm Jill's expressions of her needs is to say that they are natural, normal, legitimate, and reasonable---and so for him to take on the burden of responsibility to see that they are met. If Jack can not fulfill that responsibility for any reason, Jack will find it exceedingly difficult to acknowledge and affirm Jill's felt needs---and so give Jill messages that he does not love her. Thus Jack can not enjoy mutual awareness of mutual needs with Jill when they can not together or individually act to fulfill their felt needs. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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