This-essay is a7705101.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %BACKSLIDING ON LOVE 770510 Love makes demands which challenge technocratic behavior patterns. When a technocrat responds to love's call, there is a good chance that the response will initially lack full integrity. Backsliding may occur as the demands of love become evident, and doubt sets in about the ability or desirability of responding to love's demands affirmatively. Yielding to love's call means giving up traditional possessions. This is often difficult. As a result commitments made may not be uniformly honored. There may be a return to pre-love behavior patterns where security was sought by trying to avoid vulnerability. The ambiguities of love relationships may be too great for the reformed technocrat to bear, and so refuge may be sought in the certainties of technocratic coping. Backsliding on love may appear to be repentance from foolish behavior---especially if love's call is for behavior which transcends conventionally good behavior. Lovers by their nature do foolish things---even though through transcendent perceptions their foolishness is recognized as wisdom. Backsliding on love is often a return to values which dominated behavior before the response to love's call. Such backsliding is apparently good to those who value dominant values. Backsliding on love may be motivated by the fear of the demands of love. When one has grown accustomed to being in control of one's life, it is difficult to accept governance of one's life by any transcendent power, such as the power of love. Thus there may be rebellion, or a series of insurrections---which are likely to be carefully rationalized in terms of conventional values---to make the backsliding appear good. These processes may occur within self at the subconscious level. Such backsliding on love may thus occasion great suffering to the union which is thus violated---and the union and the loved one suffer the violation without self being aware of what happened. Objective efforts to deal with the problems and dilemmas so engendered will also violate the union by not presuming the viability of the union---dealing instead with the loved one in the absence of dialogue. Such objective consideration undermines the union and rationalizes the backsliding on love. As a result technocratic behavior appears reasonable, helpful, and proper. Nevertheless, God is love. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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