This-essay is a7610111.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %INSECURITY AND BELONGING 761011 The insecure people feel a need to belong to someone or some group. In the absence of unconditional acceptance by anyone, they sell themselves in return for a sense of belonging. This is a prostitution of meaningful human relationships. Meaningful human relationships are not contractual in nature; they are not founded upon legalistic definitions of what the relationship shall be. The insecure seek to buy a sense of belonging in return for surrender of freedom; i.e., granting the other party or parties, rights of ownership and control. Belonging in such situations is a relationship between owner and owned, a possessive relationship implying exclusive rights of control over other relationships and communications. Mutuality of contractual belonging does not lead to transcendence of the situation described. Participants in mutual contractual belonging may be satisfied with their arrangements; yet they will not fulfill their unique God-given potentials thereby. Mutual contractual belonging excludes the possibility of Love. Thus God is replaced by Law and this is the occasion for alienation which is the condition of sin. Such alienation intensifies the insecurity, the need to belong, and intensifies the bonds of the contract which gives a sense of belonging. Thus, in a violent feed-back loop the arrangement intensifies the need for the arrangement, and so fulfills itself. From the perspective of the participants, security is to be found in technique, and so legalistic, solutions to problems defined exclusively in technical terms. Once the situation is perceived exclusively in technical terms, it is inevitable that the dilemmas implicit in it will be defined exclusively in technical terms---and only technical solutions will be sought. Once insecurity has undermined meaningful human relationships, the reality of I-Thou fades away, and only the reality of I-It remains. In the world of I-It relationships are perceived exclusively in technical terms, in accord with the nature of the perceived reality. This is why people who are exclusively technical in their orientation pay for technological success by surrendering and sacrificing humane environments and intimate personal relationships. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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