RETURN TO recent.htm ESSAY-HYPER-LINKS It will help to read the following in some especially careful and thoughtful ways! All-Kinds of Both-Cooperative-and-Contentious-Behaviors - - - Are-Often INTERDEPENDENT in - - - Leading people Back-and-Forth in many Interesting-and-Interdependent ways of: Shalom and Alienative-Conflicts Making-Love and Augmenting-Alienative-Conflicts Mitigating-Alienative-Conflicts and Making-Wars Ending-Alienative-Conflicts and Preparing-for-Wars Demonstrating-Cooperation and Inhibiting-Cooperation Facilitating-Cooperation and Making Cooperation-be-Taboo Facilitating-Integrations and Excommunicating Violators-of-Taboos Demonstrating-Integrations and Excommunicating-Integrators Liberating-Integrators and (Imprisoning/Blocking)-Integrators Being-Intimate and Being-Contentious Being-Affectionate and Being-Polarizers Being-Sympathetic and Being-Dichotomizers Being-Empathetic and Being-Negators-of-Honesty Being-Encouraging and Being-Denigrators-of-Reconciliations Being-Graciously-Kind and Being-Violent-in-Alienative-Ways Being-Reconcilers and Being-Domineering-Controllers Being-Sexual-in-Healthy-Ways and Being-Inhibitors-in-Alienative-Ways Being-Truly-Present-Authentic and Being-Addicted-in-Alienative-Ways Being-in-Open-Honest-Dialogue and Being-Extremists-Terrorizing-Each-Other Being-Considerate-in-LOVE and Being-Inconsiderate-in-Alienation Being-Sensitive-in-Love and Being-Insensitive-in-Domination Facilitating-True-Lovers-Efforts and Facilitating-Domineering-Bullies'-Efforts Facilitating-Honesty-in-Intimacies and Facilitating-Pretentious-Bullies'-Efforts Facilitating-Reconciliations and Facilitating-Alienative-Efforts What is perceived as excessive by some people - - - often leads to opposite kinds of excesses! What is "real" is often determined by the prejudices of those who have "seen" IT. What is "fake" is often determined by the Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deceptions of many. Reflexive-Relationships are often determined by Objective-Relationships in Wars Unkind-Ways. Kind-Objective-Realities are often determined by Kind-Reflexive-Relationships in Shalom's Ways. Peace has never been Determined-Unilaterally by the Destructive-Ways-of-Wars. The Conflicts that Lead-US-into-Wars - - - are never Mitigated-by means of our Un-Kind-Wars. The Alienations-Created by US by means of our Wars are never Mitigated by additional Un-Kind-Wars. The most helpful Mitigations-of-our-Alienative-Conflicts occur in Shalom's-Most-Gracious-Ways.