People who are playing Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception can go through the motions of engaging "politely" in what they may call "compassionate" listening. Doing so, may be an improvement over what has come before that "polite" ritual; but that "polite" ritual is not authentically-compassionate IF --- IN SPITE OF POLITE-APPEARANCES:

1. Any relevant Systemic-Distributive-Injustice that is real --- is not acknowledged and described --- and work-is-not-started to mitigate the Patterns-of-Distributive-Injustice that are present.

2. Real-Differences in: attitudes, assumptions, perspectives, convictions, advantages and vulnerabilities --- are not acknowledged, described and questioned in open and honest dialogue --- because alienation is tied up in those Real-Differences and kept hidden.

3. There are essentially no new cooperative and colaborative efforts --- born in that "compassionate-listening."

4. There are no evident increases in levels of trust and mutual- reliance --- born in that "compassionate-listening".

5. The particpants do not try to authentically articulate and confirm each other's perspectives, attitudes, assumptions, hopes,fears, aspirations and anxieties --- because they do not feel any need to do so.

(c) 2009 by Paul A. Smith in Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy)