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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %FULFILL PEOPLE'S STANDARDS RIGHTEOUS PERFECT WISE 030621 %PRUDENT GRACIOUS COOPERATIVE HELPFUL BALANCED GOOD 030621 %TOLERANT CREATIVE INTEGRATIVE HONEST PLEASE DEVILS 030621 %MISLEADING COMPULSIVE DECEIVE NEVER MISTAKE WRONG 030621 %CAUGHT CRITICIZED INTEGRITIES RELATIONSHIP GAMES 030621 %PUNISHED PERFECTIONISTS PURITANS SEXUAL INTIMACIES 030621 People who fulfill dominant people's standards for being right, righteous, and perfect --- are unlikely to take enough prudent, wise and gracious risks --- to be cooperative, helpful, balanced, generous, and tolerant of other people's efforts to be creative, integrative and honest. It is a mistake to try to please all people. The only way to try to please all people --- is to deal with most people in ways which mislead many people. Compulsive pleasers --- become compulsive deceivers. If we are striving for perfection in the sense of never making mistakes, never being wrong, never being "caught", and never being criticized --- we are not promoting and facilitating standards which promote and facilitate both personal and communal kinds of integrities. Striving for such alienative kinds of perfection leads us into patterns of evil-relationships which are dominated by secrecy, pretentiousness and collusive games of mutual self deception. Striving for such alienative kinds of perfection does NOT lead us into kind and humane relationships. Such striving leads us to become domineering people who are very trying as controllers of each other --- as domineering people who cannot take the normal risks of healthy friendships, intimacy and honesty. Be aware of such patterns of alienative behaviors; and beware! (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================