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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %MEANINGFUL SIGNIFICANT LOVE INTIMACY DIALOGUE SEX 030608 %LISTEN SHARE GENEROSITY ACCEPT HOSPITALITY WELCOME 030608 %GIVING GETTING TAKING STEALING COERCION VIOLENCE 030608 %ABUSE RAPE WAR TERRORISM TERRORISTS HOLY RIGHTS 030608 %RITES RITUALS FORMALITIES CONFORMITY COMMANDMENTS 030608 %PRESCRIPTIONS PROSCRIPTIONS DEMANDS REQUIREMENTS 030608 Meaningful and significant love OFTEN entails being willing in principle to: 1. Take the risk of being vulnerable to domineering people who are usually ready, willing and able to take- advantage-of (abuse) information which is made available in open and honest dialogue. 2. Accept "different" people into open and honest dialogue; rather than usually hiding within the confines of exclusive clubs. 3. Take the risk of being in Love with people who are ill-at-ease and dis-eased --- because they are poor, dis-advantaged, rejected, isolated, etc. 4. Intentionally let go of "the-power-to-control" the course of the development of our increasingly intimate relationships. 5. Have one's own collusive games of mutual self deception exposed to the light of open and honest public dialogue --- which may focus upon whatever disin- tegrative behaviors one is engaged in. 6. Have ulterior/hidden motives exposed to public view. We need to acknowledge publicly that the above is true of meaningful and significant demonstrations of love; including sexual love. Sexual abuse, rape, and addictive/codependent marital-relationships --- are not meaningful or significant demonstrations of love. Sexual relationships are NOT inherently evil just because they are sexual. What we refer to as "sexual abuse" is not truly "sexual" in any meaningful way. Confusion in these areas of human knowledge is encouraged by domineering people who are "in the service" of "The Domination System". Keeping people ignorant, confused, and fearful --- serves the "special interests" of "The Domination System" --- because doing so seems to make people easier to: manage, mis-lead and control. Encouraging people to believe that they can know who is "good" and who is "evil" helps "The Domination System" --- because such presumed knowledge promotes: alienation, estrangement, misunderstandings, confusion, prejudice, doubts, suspicion, and keeps people "off balance"; presumably easier to control/manage. Of course, when "The Domination System" is in control, "things" are often not what they seem to be! Why do domineering people often promote the false- notion that "sex" is inherently "evil"; i.e., why do they promote the notion that sexual relationships are to be avoided/minimized whenever possible? 1. Profound love exposes DISHONESTY which is one of the prime/essential tools of "The Domination System". Healthy sexual relationships entail profound love which threatens "The Domination System". 2. Profound love subverts excessive concentrations of power and preoccupations with issues of control; two important tools of "The Domination System". Healthy sexual relationships entail profound love which threatens "The Domination System". 3. Profound love motivates and guides people to learn new lessons, to change, and to grow. Only traitors to our dominant cause would do any of those unthinkable things! 4. True-lovers never seek to "win" at the expense of others who are "losers". Only traitors would tolerate such a dangerous letting go of our essential defenses and our control mechanisms. 5. Truly domineering people are compulsively preoccupied with always being "in control" and "winning" conflicts at the expense of "losers" who are not "in control". That is how we should be "in control" and always "winners"! (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================