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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9404142.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %SEEK SALVATION MUTUAL EXCLUSIVE EXTREME GIFT SAFE+940414 %DICHOTOMOUS AFFIRM DENY DENIAL SECURITY DEFENSIVE 940414 Often we differ from each other in how we seek to achieve our own isolated salvations through mutually exclusive dichotomous extremes such as: 1. Affirmation-of, versus denial-of some insight, perception, experience, value, ideal, truth, relationship, person, attitude, assumption, approach, way, etc. 2. Compulsive preoccupation with, versus intense indifference towards the-same-as (or the- opposite-of) whatever it is that is the focus of somebody else. 3. Great pain, versus the avoidance of all pain. 4. Compulsive eating, versus compulsive fasting. 5. Winning all at others' expense, versus losing all to others' advantage. 6. Intensely abusive victimization, versus playing the role of helpless victim. 7. Arrogant self-righteousness, versus false guilt and shame. 8. Compulsive secretiveness, versus compulsive telling everybody all that we have to tell. 9. Compulsive judgmental legalism, versus apathetic emotional indifference. 10. Cynicism, versus gullibility. 11. Objectivity, versus reflexivity. 12. Wealth, versus poverty. 13. Control, versus impotence. Preoccupations with such dichotomous attempts to achieve salvation lead to both personal and communal disintegration through alienation, deception, dishonesty, mis-communication, non-communication, mis-understanding and mis-interpretation---regardless of which pole of each dichotomy participants may specialize in. Salvation is not achieved through any form of dichotomization. Salvation is a gift accepted and through which we find we can transcend our special alienative dichotomy, and we find we are no longer preoccupied with either pole of our special alienative dichotomy. We find it hard to accept such a threatening gift; for we worship the chosen poles of our many dichotomies, even if we sometimes oscillate back and forth between opposite poles. We insist upon achieving our own special alienative salvation in our own futile ways; because we want to get the credit for achieving our own special alienative salvation. We do not want anybody else to get any of the credit for our alienative salvation and so we cannot accept the unconditional gift of the freedom to be safely vulnerable in open and honest intimacy---no matter who offers the gift of Love. We are prone to ridicule, reject and crucify those integrative people who do accept the gift of Love and so live in its open and honest ways free of manipulative dichotomies---for by being honest they threaten to expose our collusive games of mutual self deception. Such honesty and integrity cannot be tolerated! They must be brought under the control of proper rules, regulations, prohibitions, judgments and punishments in order that law and order be maintained in conformity to our will presented on God's behalf! (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================