blog traffic analysis
This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %LUST SEX DESIRE OBJECT CONTROL ABUSE INTIMATE+931201 %FRIEND RELATION REFLEXIVE VULNERABLE SAFE LOVE 931201 There is often lack of clarity as to just what is lust and what is healthy sexual desire. In fact sometimes people behave as if there were no such thing as healthy sexual desire and as if all sexuality is somehow degrading. Some people behave as if non-conformal sexual desire and activity is motivated by lust because lust is defined in terms on non-conformity. This point of view is characteristic of people and communities where conformity is "good" and non-conformity is "evil". For them the essence of "evil" is non-conformity. The essence of "good" is conformity. They equate conformity with "good" and non-conformity with "evil" and vice versa. In their simple world - view conformity to the will of a dictator might be viewed as "good" and disobeying the commandments of a dictator might be viewed as "evil". In the real world we need to ask whether conformity promotes personal and communal integrity, or disintegration? Is conformity associated with honesty or dishonesty? Is conformity associated with liberation or enslavement? When considering whether lust is an appropriate descriptive terms to be used in a given situation we may well ask the following kinds of questions: 1. Is a desire or intent manipulative/coercive. 2. Is a desire unilateral or mutual. 3. Are pre-existing commitments being honored? 4. Is there honesty about human limitations? 5. Is there a mature friendship already existing? 6. Are there signs of personal or group addictions. 7. Are relationships seen in the presence of God? 8. Are there efforts to maintain a healthy balance? 9. Are probable long terms consequences considered? 10. Who is trying to control whom for what reasons? (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================