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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9304212.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %INTIMATE PARADIGM DICHOTOMOUS RELATIONSHIP ABANDON 930421 Intimate relationships progress toward more integrative and meaningful intimacy so long as all participants work to maintain balanced: vulnerability, power, benefits, costs, security, perceptions, understanding, hopes, expectations and anticipations. When balance is lost there is great risk that in turn the participants will abandon the paradigm of seeking security through gifts of safe vulnerability, and turn instead to the paradigm of seeking security through progressively more threatening defensive measures which are alienative and which promote the development of collusions, addictions and codependent supporters. True security requires dynamic balance which is not statically stable. To maintain true security the participants in the truly secure community must regularly work to maintain the condition of dynamic balance with regard to: vulnerability, power, benefits, costs, security, perceptions, understanding, hopes and expectations and anticipations. Thus true security is not a destination at which one can adopt a static posture and stay secure. Yet true security can be a continuing condition of healthy balance among dynamic living creatures living with integrity as individuals within a community of integrity. The defensive paradigm is never balanced and always moves people progressively toward higher levels of insecurity, distrust, uncertainty, fear, threats, and preparations for violations, violence, and disintegration of people and communities. The defensive paradigm leads to a terminal process of disintegration which destroys the individuals and communities which adopt and defend the defensive paradigm at all costs; including at the cost of sacrificing all their honesty, trust, resources, integrity and security. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================