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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9302062.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %RESPECT SUPPORT ENCOURAGE COLLUDE ADDICT TABOO+930206 %COMPLAIN BLAME PETITION DECISION ACTION LEAD JOY 930206 Often people who feel themselves to be in an unsatisfactory situation do little but complain to impotent other people who are in a like or similar situation; and maybe they blame impotent others for their situation. Such complaining and/or blaming rarely does much to change the situation. The situation is not changed much if the complainers and/or blamers have the legal power to select people to blame and punish for the unsatisfactory situation. Having the power to select and punish scape goat victims does not empower one to change a situation---if one is in heart and mind a complainer/blamer. Complainers and blamers often play the role of heightening the levels of guilt and shame in a community. The ways in which they heighten the levels of guilt and shame in a community do not contribute to personal and communal integrity. On the contrary, they contribute to personal and communal disintegration. Guilt and shame which are coercively laid on from the outside are not helpful. Complainers and blamers are often people who are frustrated by their not being in control of what cannot be controlled. They believe it should be possible to be in some form of control, they are not in control in the way they believe that they should be in control; and they complain and/or blame others for their unsatisfactory situation. The dilemma such people experience is rooted in their beliefs, and their dilemma will not change until they change their belief pattern; their paradigm for relating to their environment. Healthy people are not complainers and/or blamers. Healthy people do not believe that they should be in control of what cannot be controlled. They respond to their environment openly, honestly, realistically and with due respect for their own and other people's limitations. They do not believe that they should do what it is impossible for them to do; nor do they desire to do, have, or be what it is impossible to do, have or be. They are not focused upon unrealistic achievements, possessions, competitive victories, manipulations, controls, and appearances. They do not blame, shame, guilt, or punish others. Healthy people do ask for help and assistance when they do need help and assistance. Healthy people do petition people in positions of power and authority for redress of grievances when such people have proper authority and power to respond to such petitions. Healthy people do suggest what actions others might take to promote personal and communal integrity. Healthy people do seek to develop the means by which to solve problems which they share with others. Healthy people do seek to deal with dilemmas in integrative ways. Healthy people do point out when others are behaving in ways which lead to personal and communal disintegration. It is important to recognize the difference between the patterns of behaviors of healthy people; in contrast to the patterns of other people who do not get beyond complaining, blaming, guilting, shaming and punishing. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================