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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9301211.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %PEACE WAR VIOLENCE MANIPULATE HEALTH COMMUNITY 930121 Our security depends in essential ways upon our taking time out from other important duties and activities to envision, to dream, and to picture for each other what we anticipate would be helpful contexts within which to give and accept gifts of security. Gifts of security are given and accepted in giving and accepting personal acceptance which is not tied to conformity, perfection, compliance, obedience, or competition. In contrast, gifts of security are withheld and/or rejected when we are offered, offer to each other, and/or accept from each other "personal" acceptance which is tied to conformity, compliance, obedience, winning in competitions and/or concerns over perfection/control. When we are trying to manipulate each other or are being manipulated by others---we are not secure; we are defensive. To be healthy people in healthy communities we need to have offered to us, to offer to each other, and to accept from each other---timely gifts of security within all the various contexts which are essential to our personal and communal integrity. If we are rejected and not offered gifts of security within some contexts which are essential to our personal and communal integrity; we will then find it exceedingly difficult to be comfortable, secure and at peace within those contexts---and so will be uncomfortable, embarrassed, defensive and maybe even violently defensive within such deprived contexts. Understanding these considerations is essential to learning to live in peace with each other. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================