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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %DETACH ALCOHOLIC DRUG ADDICT COLLUSION HONEST TRUE 910629 What is it that the codependent detaches from in the process of detachment of the Twelve Step Programs? It is not so much the addict which the codependent detaches from, but rather it is the collusive games of mutual self deception of both the addict and the codependent, from which both the addict and the codependent need to detach. Detachment is withdrawal from the addictive and codependent patterns of dishonesty and self-deception. Detachment is not withdrawal from dialogue and from open and honest affection, communication and dialogue; but rather is a return to open and honest affection, communication and dialogue by refusing to participate in dishonest relationships. Detachment is escape from the prisons of dishonesty. Detachment violates the taboos and injunctions of the game of mutual self deception which addicts and their supportive codependents play; thus detachment is very difficult and "bad" if not "evil" from the point of view of the traditional life style of those nearest and dearest in the addictive society. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================