This is http://www.essayz.com/a9106172.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %TENSION STRESS DIFFERENCE SHOULD CONFORM THREAT 910617 We are under stress and tension when we feel threatened because of a difference between how we feel things should be and how they really are; and we and/or others perceive us to be guilty/shame-full for the difference. The stress and tension may be related to: 1. Not meeting a time deadline. 2. Not conforming properly to some standard. 3. Not having the required qualifications. 4. Not impressing somebody in a desired way. 5. Appearing foolish, incompetent, stupid. The stress and tension may be due to external and/or purely internal demands, expectations and images which say how we "should" be, do, accomplish, and/or appear. We most often try to resolve stress and tension by trying to meet deadlines, conforming, and trying to appear as required, expected or anticipated. Such trying tends to be very trying and often involves doing violence to ourselves, the truth, and others. Therein is the source of the tension and stress. We might resolve more tension, stress and conflicts if we were to examine carefully the deadlines, conformity standards, requirements for qualification, expectations and demands which play major roles in generating our tensions and stress. Not all of them are integrative in character; and many of them are disintegrative in character. Learning to transcend those which are disintegrative in character will go farther towards reducing tension, stress and conflicts; then will trying harder, working harder and resting less. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================