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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %PROPER CONFORM AUTHENTIC UNIQUE CREATIVE SELF 910505 If propriety is defined in terms of conformity of self to external criteria of acceptability, then personal honesty and integrity become impossible. When that which is unique to each person is defined to be irrelevant to propriety and acceptability in conversation and communal dialogue; then each person becomes a conformity machine, for whom honesty and personal integrity are irrelevant. The person who is forced to conform to external definitions of propriety and acceptability; does not feel safe in revealing feelings, perceptions, experiences, beliefs, convictions, doubts, fears, hopes, anxieties and other aspects which are uniquely their own. Such a person is not free to be honestly themselves, and cannot live with integrity; and so cannot be trusted. If what it is safe to affirm, respect, say, feel, think and support is defined by others; who are the others who have the power to make the definitions? Who is to be given the power to make the definitions? By whom are they to be given such dictatorial powers? If we are to live our lives in terms of conformity of self to external criteria of acceptability, then we need to know how those external criteria of acceptability are defined, and how and by whom the definitions may be changed from time to time; unless they are presumably eternal. Are all people to conform to the same set of external criteria? Are those who define the criteria to be free of the rules of conformity, or are they also to conform to the criteria themselves? How are they to transcend the criteria, to know when the criteria should be changed? Who is to have the power to change the criteria for personal acceptability? Who give such people such power? From whom do such people acquire such power? Is the power freely given, or is it violently taken? Is the power exercised with love and justice; or with violence and prejudice? How can we know the answers to such questions; if it is not safe to feel our own feelings, know our own fears, experience our own experiences, and say what our own perceptions are---without fear of rejection for failing to properly conform? Alienation is the essence of evil. How can we avoid participating in evil relationships if we are alienated from all that is most uniquely our own; because we are trying so hard to be good according to external rules of conformity and acceptability. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================