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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %COMMUNITY RESPONSIBILITY ADDICTIVE CONTROL GOALS 901101 The community which regards its members as being responsible for the results of their efforts to achieve goals, is a community which sets the stage for addictive behavior through which people try to control much which cannot be controlled. Citizens try to be in control of whatever they believe they will be held responsible for. If citizens will be held responsible for how others feel, they will try to control other people's feelings. If citizens will be held responsible for what others think, they will try to control other people's thoughts. It is disintegrative for a community to lead its citizens to believe that they will be held responsible for turns-of-events over which they cannot be in full control. Such beliefs lead to disintegrative, addictive and codependent collusions and behaviors. It is counter-productive to believe that personal and communal integrity can be promoted by holding people responsible for impossible kinds and levels of control over events. The nature of healthy responsibility needs to be defined and understood in a way which avoids leading citizens to try to control what cannot be honestly controlled in healthy ways. Dishonest expectations lead to dishonest beliefs, behaviors, perceptions and communications. When we expect that which cannot be honestly regarded as possible, we are entrapping ourselves in dishonest prisons of our own construction. When a community expects of its citizens that which cannot be honestly regarded as in their power to fulfill, the community entraps itself and its citizens in dishonest prisons of its own construction. Escapes from such prisons are miracles, not technical achievements. No level of scholarship within the paradigm of the community can lead the way out of such a prison. No technique or technology can destroy the walls of such a prison or show how to break out of the prison. The prisoners in such a prison do not want to get out, because they do not know about being in prison, or know what it would be like to be out of prison. In ignorance they fear the unknown outside of the prison. In terrible familiarity they prefer their disintegrative life inside of the prison. Our expectations of our selves and of each other can lead us into prisons of our own making, and imprison us there in ways we cannot transcend. We then need help in learning to want to escape, and in transcending the walls which we created through our disintegrative expectations of our selves and of others. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================