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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %EMOTIONAL CONSTIPATION RISK CONTROL HIDE HONESTY 900804 In threatening contexts people are prone to hide their true emotions, to hold them in, maybe to become emotionally constipated. It may seem advisable to try to avoid taking risks, and to hide emotions by trying to control the expression of emotions in dishonest ways. In the absence of a communal context which provides security in the sense of being free to be vulnerable, people are more prone to take the risks of dishonesty, defensiveness and manipulations; than the risks of honesty, openness and trust. Risks will always be taken; the question is what kinds of risks will be taken. Emotions, thoughts, opinions, perceptions, desires, fears, etc. which are compulsively held in---out of fear, can lead to various forms of constipation; to an inability to function smoothly. Those emotions, thoughts, opinions, perceptions, desires, fears, etc. which are likely to cause embarrassment are held in and not let go; and so cannot be dealt with in a healthy way and then forgotten. They become foci of preoccupations which are not healthy; the cause of great concern. The tragedy is that those aspects of our selves which we cannot openly and honestly share with others often become so repressed, so held in, that they operate destructively as preoccupations of our sub-conscious. Since we cannot honestly share them with others, we often hold them in so completely that we cannot share them with the various aspects of our own self; we cannot deal with them consciously. Then we cannot be wise regarding them, and we cannot function with integrity; so we tend to give violent expression to our repressed concerns, we act them out destructively, rather than express them openly and honestly within an accepting community of Love. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================