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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9003071.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %DEFEND PROTECT DISHONEST COLLUDE ADDICT INTEGRITY 900307 Efforts to defend and protect are often designed to defend and protect the dishonesty of collusion, addictions and their supportive networks of codependent behaviors; rather than designed to promote personal and communal integrity. It is important to recognize the actual effects of efforts to defend and protect; for such effects are often disintegrative rather than integrative. Insecure people are more prone to attempt to defend and protect, than are people who have clear personal identities and are well grounded in a healthy community which gives them the gift of being free to be vulnerable. People who are free to be vulnerable are not defensive people; they are usually open and honest, responsive with personal integrity within a community having communal integrity. People who have not been given the gift of the freedom to be vulnerable, are prone to be defensive; to engage in efforts to defend and protect in ways which are designed to make them invulnerable, because they are not free to be vulnerable. To be invulnerable you must engage in efforts to hide your weaknesses, your errors, your mistakes, your failures, your fears, etc. Your enemy must not know where your weaknesses are, and perhaps should be misled to attack where you are strongest. Insecure people are prone to be defensive in ways which decrease openness and honesty, and promote misleading behaviors. Thus efforts to defend and protect tend to be efforts to defend and protect dishonesty which is characteristic of all collusive games of self deception, all forms of addiction and all forms of codependent support of such behavior. When people are on the defensive we need to discuss just what is being defended; for it may well be that dishonesty is what is being defended. We cannot be well so long as the defense of dishonesty is respected in uncritical ways. We cannot recover from the diseases of our collusions, addictions and codependencies unless we honestly examine what motivates our defensiveness; and are willing to examine and see if it might be our dishonesty which motivates our defensiveness. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================