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This is http://www.essayz.com/a8909291.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CLAIM OWN PRIDE ACHIEVE FEAR CHANGE SECURITY 890929 We tend to be proud of our achievements in a static sense; i.e., we are proud of the place to which we rise and we tend to expect to find satisfaction in staying in the place of which we can be proud. We are often fearful of change and seek security by staying in one place. This is so even though in a paradoxical way we become dissatisfied with our status quo and want a better situation, a better place. What we usually want is not a process, not change, but a better place. We usually want a better static situation, not a better dynamic situation in which change is an essential part of the situation. We are rarely proud of how we are changing because others tend to expect us to be some prescribed kind of person who is inherently static. Expectations and conformity tend to pertain to continuing to be a certain kind of static person. Change threatens people who approve of conformal living. Rarely are we affirmed for the fact that we are changing, for it is more difficult for a community to control a process of change, than for a community to control a static pattern of conformity to unchanging expectations. A process of change may get out of control and threaten people who live in terms of conformity to unchanging expectations. Change threatens the power of people who feel that they must be in control in secure unchanging patterns. Change threatens people who feel that they must be in control of either themselves or others. People who seek security through control are more comfortable with static patterns of control than with dynamic balance and stability. Because of these considerations people will often resist creative change and will remain in unsatisfactory situations. People will repeat mistakes over and over because they fear the change which would be involved in changing their attitudes, values and ideals to avoid making the same mistakes over and over. Mistakes may not be recognized as the cause of pain, in fear, that change may be required to reduce the pain. Fear of change can paralyze people and force them to stay in painful patterns of repeating mistakes. Children need to be taught by example and encouragement to take pride in prudent patterns of change, to feel secure in fail-safe contexts with communal integrity. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================