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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %FREEDOM FROM CONTROL OF IMPRESSIONS BY CODEPENDENT 880923 Codependents feel a responsibility to be in control of impressions in order to take proper care of the people who are in their care. They care about such people greatly, and take great care to be generous care givers. They are so generous with their care-giving that they do not take enough care of themselves to be authentic people. The responsibility to control impressions is tied to an impression of what impressions others should be given. In a collusive society the impression that authenticity is important is taboo. Such an impression would undermine the collusion. In a collusive society the impression is that there are proper impressions which should be achieved. The responsibility to manage impressions pertains to the impression that there are certain impressions which are good, and other impressions which are evil. One must control impressions to be sure that they are impressions of goodness for self and friends, and impressions of evil for the enemy and suspicious others about whom one cannot be sure. Salvation from the prison of the collusive, addictive, codependent, technocratic society involves release from the impression that one has a need or responsibility to be in control of impressions according to some prescription. Whenever a community accepts the notion that the essence of goodness is conformity to prescribed patterns of behavior in certain situations, the members of the community are made vulnerable to being controlled. If human behavior is prescribed in certain situations, the controller only needs to create the prescribed situation to elicit the prescribed behavior; or just create the impression that the situation exists to elicit the prescribed behavior. Any set of behavior prescriptions is bound to be inadequate; failing to take into account all possible unique situations. The manipulator can devise situations which are unique and from the set of prescriptions will elicit the desired response or the part of the compulsive legalist, even though the prescribed response is disintegrative in ways which are to the advantage of the manipulator. Legalists set themselves up to be manipulated by selfish people who transcend the narrow vision of legalists. If goodness has to do with achieving impressions of conformity to a legal code then authenticity is not worth much. Impressions are then more important than authentic being who one really is. Openness and honesty are not consistent with compulsive presentation of conventional impressions. People become trapped in the process of trying to control impressions. Members of a collusive, addictive, codependent society need to become free of their imprisoning paradigm. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================