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This is http://www.essayz.com/a8703091.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %OFFICIOUS DUTY RESPONSIBLE ATTACH LACK SERENITY 870309 Officious people volunteer their services where they are neither asked for nor needed. They feel/believe it is their duty to be helpful in guiding others through officious assistance. They are paternalistic toward many people whom they judge to be in need of assistance, the assistance which they themselves are willing to make sacrifices to offer. Officious people tend to be highly involved emotionally, attached emotionally to the situations/people whom they seek to rescue. Success at being helpful is very important to them. Their salvation rests in being helpful and they can not rest until they have fulfilled their duty to be helpful; serenity can or must wait until later. Officious people need to learn that they need to be serene before they can be genuinely helpful. Serenity is a prerequisite to being helpful, not the reward for being helpful. Serenity is not possible so long as they are officiously attached to other people's problems, entangled in their conflicts, and perhaps contributing to the generation of conflicts. Officious people are rarely genuinely welcome, although some people are addicted to their "helpful" service of supplying the fix upon which they depend. Some addicts are addicted to officious people and their enabling help; help which enables the addict to evade the responsibilities which the officious people attach themselves to. Misguided generosity leads officious people to try to give to others that which can not be given, the fulfillment of the others' responsibilities. It is not charitable, helpful, or loving to lift from others their burden of fulfilling their own responsibilities. To do so is to teach them to be irresponsible and to lose power to the meddlesome officious people. Meddlesome people are not qualified to wield increased power. They need to learn that serenity comes from fulfilling their own responsibilities, and from letting other people fulfill their own responsibilities. No person can fulfill the responsibilities of another person with integrity. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================