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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %GUILT REJECTION DISINTEGRATION 870107 Guilt entails self rejection and so personal disintegration. When Jack feels guilty it is because part of Jack is rejecting, disintegration, another part of Jack. Jack as judge finds that Jack the actor has not conformed to the criteria for acceptability of Jack the judge. The stage is set for a drama of disintegration when Jack accepts the plot and agrees to play the role of judge with some criteria for conditional acceptability; and so accepts implicitly the possibility of disintegration through self rejection. The possibility of self rejection is not obvious at first. What is initially accepted is the possibility of the acceptability of friends in terms of conformity to self's standards of what is acceptable behavior. This possibility is comfortable and serves self's motives of minimizing discomfort. Self is not comfortable with an incoherent pattern of behavior and soon puts self in a double blind by accepting the concept that self should be acceptable under the same criteria that self chose to regard others as being acceptable; with the stinger that this implies that self should be rejected if self does not conform to chosen criteria of acceptability --- chosen under communal encouragement not entirely controlled by self. The specific criteria of acceptability can not be chosen in any way to avoid the double blind; for every form of the knowledge of good and evil when used as the criteria for acceptability/rejection leads out of the garden of personal and communal integrity which is heaven. All such technologies for the proper control of behavior entail the disintegration of the relationship between the judge and the judged, whether they be two or one. This is why laws, ethics, moralities, legalisms, etiquette, etc. are not successful means to personal and communal integrity. Love does not attempt to achieve personal and communal integrity by threats of rejection as the way to coerce conformity. Such threats lack integrity and so can not with integrity promote personal and communal integrity. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================