This-essay is a8010051.htm which is available at the web-site www.essayz.com. See more notes at the bottom. Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay By-Months By-Years By-Words Webs of Like-&-Un-Like ESSAYS <==> Like-&-UN-Like This-One ========================================================== %AFFECTION AS IMPORTANT OR OPTIONAL 801005 To many people affection is optional; they do not regard affectional relationships as essential. How often is it said that people have a right to affection? How often are people's rights to communicate their affection affirmed? How often are expressions of affection in public perceived as "inappropriate"? To require that expressions of affection take place in private is to say some powerful things about affection. Even more is said when covert messages say that it is improper for some people to express mutual affection even in private. It is as if one had to obtain permission to express affection, affection being something which was so dangerous that it must be institutionally regulated. Or, perhaps it is something which is so dangerous that people must be institutionally trained to handle it safely. In any case it is not to be expressed spontaneously, honestly and freely. Those who would control expressions of affection may regard it as very important; important and dangerous. It may be important to regulate affection so that everything may be done in an orderly way according to the rules and regulations. Then it is possible to know who is acceptable, by noting which people conform to rules of acceptability. Expressions of spontaneous affection are prone to upset such means to stability and security in the social order. Since maintaining the social order is of greatest importance, it is important that people not be free to express their affections without restraint. Thus expression of freely felt affection is regarded as optional and/or dangerous, not as essential to social order and stability. How strange it is that emotional security which is associated with uninhibited expression of affection is--- not perceived as the foundation for social order and tranquility! It is assumed that the expression of affection can not contribute to a sense of and an occasioning of real security. It is assumed that security is achieved through objective manipulative means, not affective expressions. It is assumed that objectivity is essential and important, affection is optional and unimportant---or dangerous! (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in www.essayz.com Search for Integrity and Honesty (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================Lines beginning with a percent sign are KEYWORDS for use in ESSAY-System Searches. Their terminal digits are dates of writing in the format @yymmdd#, where @ = a means 99, @ = b means 20, and # = is a within-date essay-count. Links to date-adjacent essays are near page top & bottom.
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