%%ADDICTION
Anne Wilson Schaef has written that if you are tempted to
be dishonest you are addicted; even if you have not
"yielded" to the temptation to be dishonest. True lovers
are not even tempted to be dishonest, because they know
that being dishonest is a sure way to undermine most
personal and communal integrities which give meaning and
significance to living and loving.
Domineering people who feel that they must be in control
to be secure, are often tempted to be dishonest. Many
become addicted to collusive games of mutual self
deception, while trying to use coercion and violence to
achieve security through invulnerability. Such efforts are
tragically futile and hopeless, but domineering people do
not dare break their collusion's rules by dealing honestly
with the futility of their efforts. They would be
rejected by their friends if they broke collusion rules!
They dare not! Trying to stand together, they fall
together.