KEYS **** We cannot maintain/sustain our own unique personal-integrity - - - if there is no-boundary between what is unique about our identity/integrity; and what is unique about another person's identity/integrity. We cannot maintain our own unique personal-integrity - - - in the midst of confusion about our identities. "True-Lovers" will disintegrate as persons and destroy their Integrative-Love; if they confuse their identities - - - by Playing-to-WIN-Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception about there NEVER being any Conflict between them - - - in spite of their Perspectives and Experiences Being-Different on many occasions. Open-and-Honest-Dialogues are richer between Different-People; than between presumably absolutely-identical- people who are NOT-Being Honest-with-Each-Other about where they are and what their different experiences are. Each one cannot experience themselves exactly as they experience each other; the background contexts are different. Dishonesty about contexts is destructive and disintegrative!