KEYS **** True-Lovers seek to facilitate the evolution of healthy-intimate-personal-relationships - - - which avoid The High-Costs-Of: 1. Addictive-Codependent-Relationships - - - that are usually-conflicted, 2. Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception - - - that can never be Truly-Won, 3. Concentrations of Wealth and/or Power - - - that rarely bear sustainable-sweet-fruits, 4. Systemic Distributive-Injustice - - - where who is complicit is rarely all that clear, 5. Tragically-Misleading-Divergent-Expectations - - - taken for granted by alienated people, 6. The Inhbition of Open-and-Honest-Dialogues - - - to keep Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception hidden, 7. Sexually-Transmitted-Diseases - - - that are relatively easy to avoid, IF we-are-well-informed, 8. Pregnancies not prepared for in healthy ways - - - that can be avoided, IF we-are-well-informed, 9. Dangerously-Rapid shifts into premature risky intimacies - - - that can be avoided IF we-are-well-informed, 10. Imprudent and Untimely Trust - - - that can be avoided, IF we-are-well-informed, 11. The imprudent-rejection of healthy-risks - - - that can be avoided, IF we-are-well-informed, 12. The Risks of Alienative-Exclusive-Relationships - - - that can be avoided, IF we-are-well-informed, 13. The Risks of trying to Unilaterally-Control-Relationships - - - that can be avoided, IF we-are-well-informed, 14. The Risks of Coercively-Stanardized-Conventional-Relationships, avoidable; IF we-are-all-well-informed, 15. The Risks of Coercively-Prescribed-Relationships, avoidable; IF we-are-well-informed, 16. The Risks of Stagnant-Dying-Relationships, avoidable; IF we-are-well-informed, 17. The Risks of Intolerance toward new-integrative-rlationships; IF we-are-well-informed. It is not a Simple-Thing to Avoid-Costs through Healthy-Reflexive-Educational-Efforts. Such Healthy- Reflexive-Educational-Efforts have often led to Contentious-Alienative-Conflicts with Domineering-Bullies who want to Maintain-Unilateral-Controls over many Reflexive-Personal-Relationships in their communities.