KEYS **** Thoughts about "Facilitated-Mediation by a Trained-Mediator:" 90% of Clients enter the Facilitated-Mediation process with significant levels of resentment. 85% of those Clients in Formal Facilitated-Mediation; Resolved their Alienative-Conflicts - - - - even though there was no mandate that they stay in the process! They started by telling together their respective stories to the Trained-Mediator. IN-CONTRAST: When such Alienative-Conflicts are put into the hands of Formal-Adversarial-Lawyers - - - By-Law the Lawyers are REQUIRED to engage in Adversarial-Contests in COURT! By-Law the Lawyer MUST-NOT seek to Mitigate-the-Alienative-Conflicts! Facilitated-Mediation: Often starts with questions such as: 1. What would like to see happen? 2. What are the underlying: issues, points of irritation, gripes, anxieties, fears? 3. Why are you unhappy? What makes you unhappy? 4. What are your most basic needs - - that are not being fulfilled? Acknowledged? Met? 5. What "contests" are merely "symptoms" of deeper-basic-needs that are not being Met? 6. If those deeper-basic-needs were being Met; what other "contests" would not be important? 7. How can we move from Egocentric-Preoccupations; into Positive-Constructive-Colaboration? 8. What can come-to-be the focus of Open-and-Honest Mutually-Appreciated-Dialogue? 9. How can we move from Polarized-Positions --> into Dialogues about Spectrums-of-Possibilities? 10. To what foci of irritation; can we helpfully give-less-attention? 11. To what possible foci of cooperation; can we helpfully give-increasing-attention?