RETURN TO recent.htm ESSAY-HYPER-LINKS Fix the above !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! The Thought-Ptterns and Mind-Sets of True-Lovers and Domineering-Bullies are- Facilitated-and Guided by their Different-Prevailing: Vocabularies Concepts Word-Phrases Association-Patterns Ways-of-Analyzing-Situations Emotiona-Habits Patterns-of-Reasoning Patterns-of-Drawing-Conclusions Rituals Doctrines Assumptions Presuppositions Unexamined-Convictions Attitudes Habits Traditions The above Differing-Prevailinhg-Realities may-be-seen as Totally-Absurd to-the-other-group-of-people; for reasons which are totally-unknown to those who see the other as Totally-Absurd. The result of the Above-Described Differences between True-Lovers and Domineering-Bullies is that they often Fail-to-Address their Differences in Authentic-Open-and-Honest-DIALOGUES - - - because some of them do-not-want-to-know Differences that-are-real, and so they do not Listen-to-Others. So long as some of the above people want the Differences kept-in-the-shadows in-states-of-confusion - - - People will not be able to benefit from Open-and-Honest-Dialogue based upon reliable information. The Effective-Mitigation-of-Alienative-Conflicts are likely to involve becoming-aware of the above differences between True-Lovers and Domineering-Bullies; and will-likely-involve Many Open-and-Honest- Discussions about thodse differences; and how those differences lead to the Differences-in-the-Outcomes of the efforts of {Domineering-Bullies and Mobbing-Mobsters} versus {True-Lovers}. Alienation versus Reconciliation Disintegration versus Integration Diseases versus Healings Contentions versus Cooperation Dichotomies versus Integrities Polarizations versus Communities Violence versus Friendships Threats versus Hospitality Suspicions versus Welcomes Ignorance versus Knowledge Prejudices versus Thoughtfulness Exclusivity versus Inclusive-Integrations Segregations versus Integrations Hiearchies versus Democracies Fights versus Communications Distrust versus Trust Suspicions versus Cooperation Collusive Games versus Cooperative-Fun Tensions versus Relaxation Concentrations versus Sharings Hoarding versus Generosity Diseases versus Being-At-Ease Contensions versus Meditations and Prayers Despair versus Hope "You" versus "Us" "Me" versus "We" "I" versus "Community" Blame versus Assistance Guilt versus Forgiveness Shame versus Love Punish versus Reconcile Excommunicate versus Dialogue Demand versus Cooperate Command versus Suggest Laws versus Examples Require versus Admire Prerequisites versus Hospiality Exclusivity versus Insensitivity Enemies versus Friends Kill-Intimacies versus Heal-Relationships Stadards versus Role-Models Negations versus Affirmations