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This is http://www.essayz.com/b0707210.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %GIVING GUIDANCE FOR TRUE LOVERS BECOMING INVOLVED 070721 %INTIMATE ROMANTIC FRIENDLY SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP GOD 070721 %FAMILIES NEIGHBORS GROUPS TOWNS VILLAGES CITIES ID 070721 %CHURCHES RELIGIOUS INSTITUTIONS SECULAR LAWS RULES 070721 %REGULATIONS ADMINISTRATIONS POLICE JUDICIAL COURTS 070721 %PROHIBITION PRESCRIPTIONS TABOOS PUNISHMENT PURITY 070721 Overly-Simple = Simplistic Guidelines for human behavior often lead people towards Tragic-Alienations -- even when the people who try to follow the Simplistic-Guidelines are quite sincere and united in what Simplistic-Guidelines they agree to follow. How can we avoid their kinds of tragic dilemmas? Can we helpfully articulate some Broad-and-Gracious- Guidelines for True-Lovers who are seeking to draw some specific/particular Gracious-Guidelines For-Themselves-to- Honor as they become involved in: intimate, romantic and sexual relationships? Consider the following suggestions of what should be MITIGATED what we do, and do not do. 1. Dishonesty, pretense, arrogance and hubris. 2. Prescriptions, proscriptions and demands. 3. Commands, controls and judgementalism. 4. Concentrations of power and wealth. 5. Domination, coercion and violence. 6. Win/lose contests and/or competitions. 7. Rank-ordering-people, hierarchies and Cast-Systems. 8. Collusive-Games-of-Mutual-Self-Deception. 9. All kinds of Slavery-and-Segregations. 10. Redemptive-Power-Myths about the above Vices. Note: Successful MITIGATION efforts shift people's attention away from Excessive-Preoccupations with that which is to be mitigated; toward Complementary-and/or- Opposite Integrative-Efforts in Shalom's-Ways. There is No-Way-to-Shalom; Shalom is The-Way. The above guidelines are relevant to groups of two or more Imperfect-True-Lovers at all stages of their involvements in attempting to Be-Truly-Together in the Gracious-Ways- of-Shalom. Other Gracious-Guidelines which are Coherent-With and Well-Integrated-With the above ten guidelines --- may also be helpful in some situations/contexts. Those realities which the above guidelines Suggest-Need- to-Be-Mitigated --- are never helpful in giving guidance to Imperfect-True-Lovers as they become involved in: intimate, romantic and sexual relationships. The following suggest additional considerations that need to be Kept-In-Mind. The possibility, probability and seriousness of Destructive-Consequences increase whenever any of the FOLLOWING-CIRCUMSTANCES --- occur within social settings involving intimate, romantic and/or sexual relationships --- which are envisioned, fantasized, desired, sought, planned and/or actualized: a. People are ignorant about the risks entailed. b. People believe that life is Essentially-Simple. c. The number of people involved is increased. d. Levels of Intimacy, Romance and/or Sexuality increase. e. Participants came from diverse heritages/cultures. f. Participants are unequal in power/wealth/education. g. Participants are unequal in sensitivity. h. Participants are unequal in empathy/sympathy. i. Participants are unequal in experience/knowledge. j. Participants are NOT in Ongoing-Honest-Dialogues. k. Participants are NOT sensitive to each other's needs. l. Participants are NOT empathetic/sympathetic to each. m. Participants ARE victims of Domination-Systems. n. Participants ARE supporters of Domination-Systems. o. Some persons are NOT free to Offer/Accept True-Love. p. Some persons are Loyal to some Domination-System. q. Some persons are Insecure and/or Fear-Full. r. Some persons are Fear-Full of being Truly-Vulnerable. s. Some persons are Fear-Full of Prudent-Wise-Risks. t. Some persons have never Lived-In any True-Sanctuary. u. Refusals to acknowledge our human/planet limitations. v. Refusals to acknowledge cosmic-laws'-limits-upon-us. w. Combinations of the above conditions Do-Exist. x. Combinations exacerbate destructive effects of each. y. Combinations re-cycles many Destructive-Efforts. z. Residual: greed, ignorance and/or confusion persist. NONE of the above conditions is likely to mitigate the risks associated other of the above conditions. Instead, EACH of the above conditions is likely to exacerbate the risks associated with other of the above conditions. To the extent possible we need to MITIGATE each of the above conditions as graciously as we can do so. Be Graciously-Together in the Many-Ways-of-Shalom. (c) 2007 by Paul A. Smith in "Search for Honesty and Integrity" (On Being Yourself Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================