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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %EXPERIMENTAL UNILATERAL EXPERIMENTS FRIENDSHIPS 040121 %INTIMATE SEXUAL EVIL RELATIONSHIPS IRRESPONSIBLE 040121 %ARROGANCE SELF RIGHTEOUSNESS CERTAINTY ABSOLUTE 040121 %INVITATIONS SEDUCTIONS HOSPITALITY EXPERIENCES IT 040121 %I-THOU BUBER UNDERSTANDING GROWTH BIRTH DEATHS GO 040121 It is irresponsible for young people to UNILATERALLY experiment with forming new friendships and intimate sexual relationships. Healthy friendships and intimate sexual relationships are NOT FORMED UNILATERALLY; they are always formed GENTLY AND COOPERATIVELY. It is irresponsible for young people to UNILATERALLY claim to know with certainty just how to form new friendships and intimate sexual relationships. So also it is irresponsible for mature people to UNILATERALLY claim to know just how to tell young people UNILATERALLY how they must behave UNILATERALLY in order to form healthy and well integrated new friendships and intimate sexual relationships. In such domineering efforts arrogance and self-righteousness about-ideal-forms of friendships, intimacy and sexuality --- lead to personal and communal dis-integration. When we are trying to do what we have never done before we are inevitably experimenting. Experimentation is inevitable in living new lives. In healthy new humane relationships experimentation is inevitable, essential AND COOPERATIVE. Young people need wise and prudent guidance about how to enter into healthy new humane relationships. Such wise and prudent guidance is NEVER UNILATERAL; it is always cooperative, humble and gentle. --- Those who are involved in such wise and prudent guidance are entering into new and experimental relationships and dialogue about intimate experimentation; e.g., as young parents and even younger children. How often do new parents and their young children remember having talked together (been in open and honest dialogue) about new experimental friendships and sexual intimacies for the first time? When guidance is UNILATERAL, COERCIVE and/or DOMINEERING --- the "guidance" leads tragically to the formation of new patterns of UNILATERAL, COERCIVE and/or DOMINEERING inhumane relationships which are evil- relationships; and so lead cyclically to lives of arrogance, self-righteousness, and UNILATERAL-VIOLENCE. So on to endless conflicts and wars. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================