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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %EVIL RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN RESCURER VICTIM ADDICT 040102 %PERCEPTIONS OFFER GIFTS SHARE PERCEPTIONS THEORIES 040102 %GOSPEL SALVATION ORIGINAL SINNERS REDEMPTION DEVIL 040102 %CIRCUMSTANCES SITUATIONS EVIDENCE EXPERINECE GOODS 040102 %CODEPENDENT COLLUSION FALLEN POWERS BEING SUPERIOR 040102 %JEW CHRISTIAN MUSLIM RELIGIONS WAR VIOLENCE COERCE 040102 The relationships between "rescuer" and "rescued- victim" depend upon their perceptions of what the "rescuer" has to offer the potentially "rescued-victim". Their perceptions/theories about their respective "circumstances" are not likely to be identical. Their relationships depend upon the natures and extents of their differences in perceptions/theories; and upon how well- aware they are of their differences in perceptions and/or theories. All of the above is inherently complicated. The complications are increased, however, whenever the "rescuer" and/or potentially "rescued-victim" are victims of: 1. Alienation/incoherence within themselves. 2. Alienation/incoherence in their relationships. 3. Ignorance, confusion, prejudice, etc. 4. Provincialism, narrowness, imbalance, etc. 5. Exclusivity, arrogance, self-righteousness, etc. 6. Imbalance as regards power, wealth, health, etc. 7. Imbalance as regards self-esteem, honors, etc. 8. Fanaticism as regards to their own ideals. Often a perverse relationship evolves between an arrogant, self-righteous and overly self-confident would- be-rescuer and a person who is a victim of: dysfunctional-humility, mis-guided-meekness, poverty, etc. In such a situation a TRUE-RESCUE is almost impossible, because it is unlikely that there will be honesty in the rescue-relationship. The ostensible-rescuer is likely to augment their arrogance, self-righteousness and self- confidence through the pretentious-rescue. The presumed- victims is likely to experience the augmentation of dysfunctional-humility, mis-guided-meekness, poverty, etc. In the above kind of dilemma each person entering into a rescue relationship needs to seek honestly to discern what they can bring to the evolving relation- ship --- which the other person needs to honor, respect and understand. To the extent that either participant fails to seek to discern what good they can honestly bring to their evolving relationship --- to that extent they are not likely to contribute to higher levels of personal and communal integrity. Often people bring different "theories" in terms of which they attempt to understand and deal with ostensible human needs: 1. To be rescued, 2. To be a rescuer, 3. To ask for help, 4. To offer help, 5. To be independent, 6. To be inter-dependent, 7. To be cooperative, 8. To be hospitable, 9. To accept help, hospitality, gifts, etc. 10. To avoid addictive dependencies, etc. 11. To be dominant, coercive, in-control, etc. 12. To compete, win, be-superior, etc. 13. To live within a sanctuary community. 14. To explore outside of sanctuary communities. 15. To describe what one has experienced & be heard. 16. To be acknowledged with one's own integrity. 17. To be well integrated into a healthy community. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================