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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %UNHEALTHY DEALS MARRIAGES INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS 031002 %INTERDEPENDENCE FAILED SEDUCTION COMPENSATE DEVILS 031002 %FAILURES UNWILLINGNESS TAKE GOOD CARE OURSELVES 031002 %POWERFUL COMPETENT ATTRACTIVE SELF CONFIDENT OTHER 031002 %COOPERATE COLABORATE RESCUE INDOLENCE LAZY WORKERS 031002 %MENTAL DISEASES COLLUSIONS GAMES SELF DECEPTION 031002 We set ourselves up for disappointment in a failed relationship if we look for somebody to be involved in a marriage/intimate relationship with us --- so as to compensate for our failure or unwillingness to take as good care of ourselves as we are capable of doing. (This is NOT about those of us who are truly UNable to take good care of ourselves because of objective: injuries, diseases, infirmities, old age, etc. 1. The more powerful, competent, attractive, self- confident, and wealthy the coveted person is --- all the more likely that we ourselves will fail to work cooperatively with such a coveted person to develop a healthy/balanced relationship with such a person. We are likely to be looking for someone to rescue us from indolence, not looking for somebody to cooperate with in a balanced partnership. 2. The more the coveted person is willing to become involved a very intimate relationship with us as indolent as we are --- all the more likely it may be that the other person will take advantage of us in our weakness, uncertainty, lack-of-self-confidence, and deep level of felt need to be taken care of. The other person may be a closet addict looking for a codependent supporter himself/herself! Healthy marriages/intimate relationships are balanced partnerships; not unbalanced relationships of convenience entered into by unhealthy individuals making unhealthy "deals" that entail dishonesty about individual: weaknesses, dis-eases, diseases, dishonesties, addictions, codependences, and/or involvements in collusive games of mutual self deception. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================