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This is http://www.essayz.com/b0308291.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %TERRIBLE DILEMMA INTIMATE SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP 030829 %WOMEN COLLUSION DOUBLE BIND SAFELY VULNERABLE 030829 %SECURITY FREEDOM GIFTS EXCHANGE ACCEPTANCE 030829 %LOVERS REJECTION GUARANTEE OUTCOMES CONSEQUENCES 030829 %BELIEFS CHOICES CONVICTIONS ABSOLUTE TRUTHS 030829 %AUTHORITIES ANCIENT IT THOU REFLEXIVE 030829 %HONESTY HOSPITALITY CIVILITY REVERE 030829 Domineering people (men or women) face a terrible dilemma in their intimate/sexual relationships: 1. To be faithful to "The Macho-Mentality", "The Domination System", "The Domineering Powers That Be", "The Gang" --- by whatever name --- they cannot be truly intimate/vulnerable with any other person. 2. They cannot be truly secure or intimate in the total absence of vulnerability; for true security is known only when we are safely vulnerable within a communal sanctuary wherein people exchange gifts of the freedom to be safely vulnerable. 3. Intimate others cannot guarantee that they will always be utterly perfect, reliable or predictable; for even the best of people are not utterly perfect, reliable or predictable. 4. Truly intimate/sexual relationships cannot be controlled by anybody; be they participants or non- participants in the controlled "intimate/sexual" relationships. Anybody who pretends that they can control any truly intimate/sexual relationship --- is certainly not a participant within such a true relationship; and most likely is a participant within one or more collusive games of mutual self deception. 5. To the extent that domineering people are successful in their efforts --- they exclude themselves from truly intimate/sexual relationships in order to appear to be successful in their efforts. Domineering people sacrifice personal and communal integrities for the appearance of successful domination --- while the people they presume to be dominating see more clearly than the domineering people do how futile the pretenses are. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================