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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %DESCRIPTIVE PROSCRIPTIVE PRESCRIPTIVE COMMANDS GOD 030601 %COERCIVE INTERPRETATION HELPFUL SPECTRUMS CONFLATE 030601 %DICHOTOMY MUTUALLY EXCLUSIVE DIFFERENCES VARIATION 030601 %STANDARDIZED CONFORMITY CORRELATED CAUSE EFFECT 030601 %UNDERSTAND COMPLEMENTARY DIFFERENCES TRUTHS VIEWS 030601 ACCEPT TOLERATE DIVERSITY SEXUAL INTIMACY FRIENDS 030601 The following statements are offered as descriptive statements; not as either pro-scriptive or pre-scriptive statements. It will not be helpful to treat the following des-criptive statements --- as either pro-scriptive statements or pre-scriptive statements --- in any coercive way. Dishonesty about the above two statements will not be helpful --- no matter how hard people may try to be dishonest --- in presumably helpful ways. Among humans there are full spectrums of variation in regards to the following kinds of diversity. It will not be helpful to try to conflate full spectrums of variations into dichotomous ( either/or ) statements which are mutually exclusive. For the most part the spectrums of variations occur somewhat independently of each other. Although there are correlations between human tendencies, there are exceptions to most such correlations; i.e., the sense "exceptions" often prove each "rule". Variations in human tendencies include the following: 1. Relative, but not uniform, indifference on the part of babies to sexual differences between them when they are infants. 2. Usually interest in each other's differences in regards to potential intimate/sexual relationships grow with age, especially during the transition from sexual immaturity to sexual maturity --- through the years of puberty. 3. The greater the amount of proven/reliable information that young people receive about the ranges of humane differences with regards to patterns of intimacy/sexuality in human relationships --- the greater is the probability that their personal relationships will be: humane, healthy, integrative, and worthy of honor, respect and support. 4. Ignorance, prejudice, confusion, dishonesty, pretentiousness, addictions, codependency and collusions --- do not promote the development of healthy, integrative or humane personal relationships. 5. Coercion, violence, domination, bullying, unilateralism, exclusivity, arrogance, self-righteousness, conformity, standardization and other related human traits --- undermine the development of humane, healthy, integrative, creative and humane personal relationships. 6. People who are humane, healthy, honest, gentle, cooperative, humble, civil, hospitable, integrative, creative and authentic --- have often demonstrated wide ranges in their dispositions as regards humane intimacy and sexual relationships. 7. People who are: isolated, emotionally-immature, insecure, defensive, domineering, coercive, violent unilateralists, mutually-exclusive, arrogant, self- righteous, standard-setters, and respectors of conformity --- have often demonstrated intolerance toward diversity as regards humane intimacy and sexual relationships. 8. Diversity as regards humane intimacy and sexual relationships includes: diversity as regards gender-roles, desires/aversions to being-together with different/similar people, and what circumstances engender sexual: dreams, fantasies, excitement, pleasures and fears. In thinking and talking about such diversity the use of the following words have evolved in emotion-ladden ways: heterosexual, homosexual, bi-sexual, trans-gendered, gays, lesbians, masturbation, petting, copulation, intercourse, mate- swapping, group-sex, sexual-intimacy, love-affairs, triangles, adultery, chastity, virtue, purity, abstinence and words with other related connotations. 9. There is diversity in regards to how interested in and/or comfortable people are as regards conversations about people's kinds of: intimacy, sexuality, desires, experiences, learning-patterns, conclusions, guidelines, hopes, fears, expectations, fears, anxieties, frustrations, etc. 10. There is diversity in regards to talking in abstractions and/or talking in regard to personal details of personal experiences; and how welcome such talk is within diverse groups; and how sexually stimulating such talk is within various settings. 11. There is diversity in regards to how accepting/ tolerant diverse people are in regards to sexually explicit art forms, movies, videos, pornography, advertising, laws, etc. 12. There is diversity in regards to accepting/ tolerating various levels of intimacy/sexuality in public/private settings. 13. There is diversity in regards to being in dialogue within religious institutions --- about the diversity which is actually present within healthy/ integrative humane intimate/sexual relationships --- and the levels of openness and honesty which are demonstrated within such occasions of religious dialogue. 14. There is diversity in regards to how much each new generation of young people learns about healthy diversity in humane intimacy/sexual relationships --- learning which occurs within each kind of human institution: religious, secular, school, peer-group, domineering, militaristic, political, professional, business, scientific, engineering, technocratic, etc. 15. All such learning contributes to how each civilization evolves and/or disintegrates. 16. How much learning takes place depends greatly upon whether or not the communal contexts within which young people grow up --- are domineering, or liberating in integrative ways. Bullies and dictators do not promote liberating educational experiences --- because such experiences make it harder to control people in ways which fulfill the mission of "The Domination System". (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================