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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CONSERVATIVE LIBERAL HEALTHY INTIMATE RELATIONS+020227 %HELP FACILITATE PROMOTE ISSUES CONTROL POSITIVE+020227 %PERFECTION PURITY CONFORMAL RIGHTEOUSNESS DEVIL+020227 %FAILURE MODELS EXAMPLES DEMONSTRATIONS LOVERS+020227 %FOCUS ATTENTION PRIORITIES SELF OTHERS LABELS+020227 %BEST ARROGANCE SALVATION HEAVEN REWARDS PUNISH 020227 Why do conservatives and liberals both fail to help young people develop healthy intimate relationships? Both conservatives and liberals are preoccupied with issues of control --- trying to control each other; rather than focusing upon positive affirmations which would liberate young people from being preoccupied with issues of control. The conservatives and liberals who fail to help young people to develop healthy intimate relationships are: domineering, coercive, and demanding in their relationships with each other --- failing to model healthy relationships which lead through stages into intimacy which is: honest, balanced, mutual, integrative, creative, kind, gracious, civil, forgiving, etc. By focusing upon each other in domineering ways, both conservatives and liberals shift the attention of young people away from people who are role models of healthy intimate relationships --- to role models of unhealthy coercive relationships which lead by stages into disintegrative relations characterized by: dishonesty, domination, addictions, denials, codependency, misunderstandings, collusions, lies, prejudice, bias, ignorance, alienation, animosity, revenge, anger, egos, I-its. The focus shifts to what can be controlled, away from from what cannot be controlled; e.g., away from lovers who understand, transcend and subvert: all that domineering people stand for and the ways in which they oppose each other via: denials, negations, refusals, rejections, contradictions, ridicule, derision, mockery, etc. --- to just whatever can be controlled; e.g., vulnerable people, alienated people, sick people, hungry people, thirsty people, weak ones; i.e., guilty ones, shameful ones, blamable ones --- all alone. Which kinds of people merit our true respect, honor, support, and acceptance into open and honest dialogue --- which leads to truly intimate relationships and communities? Who can say with true conviction? Who can can untie the Gordian knots of our collusive games of selfish lies? See the next essay for further considerations. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================