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This is http://www.essayz.com/b0008301.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %ULTIMATE CONCERNS IDOLATRY IDEALS VALUES PRINCIPLE+000830 %DOMINATION SYSTEM PRIVACY RIGHTS INQUIRY CONTROL+000830 %REGULATION DISCIPLINE COMMAND PROHIBIT PRESCRIBE+000830 %EXCLUSIVE EXPERIENCES DESIRES HOPES FEARS CONCERNS+000830 %SEXUAL ABUSE RAPE CONSENT RESPONSIVE OPEN HONEST 000830 The ultimate concerns, ideals, values and principles of domineering people --- make it difficult, if not impossible, for them to truly respect, honor and support people's rights to privacy. To be successfully dominant they need to think about what people do in private, to make inquiry into what people do in private, and to attempt to control what people do in private. True privacy is a threat to their right to dominate, to be in control, and to regulate what other people think, feel, desire, hope, fear, do, etc. Domineering people often seek to use ancient commandments, prohibitions, prescriptions and scriptures --- as tools with which to dominate people who are vulnerable. The often seek to exclude from consideration the current experiences, desires, pleasures, hopes, aspirations and fears of people who now find themselves within problematic relationships. Only ancient authoritative sources are allowed to be given consideration --- because they are easier to control than are modern aspects of life. Domineering people cannot acknowledge that the essential differences between intimate/sexual relationships which are healthy and those which entail sexual abuse and/or rape --- pertain to the degrees of mutuality, balance, openness, honesty, and reciprocity within the participants' current: experiences, desires, pleasures, hopes, aspirations and fears. The current essential differences are not addressed clearly and helpfully in ancient commandments, prohibitions, prescriptions and scriptures. In order to effectively understand, transcend, and graciously subvert domineering people's efforts to control us --- we must be clear in our minds about what it is that they are trying to do, why they are trying to do it, how they are trying to do it, and how we can rob them of the power to do it. We are unlikely to be able to do all of that exclusively in terms of ancient texts, commandments, prescriptions, proscriptions and scriptures. There are modern revelations which are relevant to our modern conditions and our personal circumstances. God is not done offering Her revelations to those humble people who are open to them and willing to accept them. We need to and should take gracious advantage of the following circumstances: 1. Domineering people who are playing collusive games of mutual self deception blind themselves to how tragically they reveal their true natures --- when they dominate and/or crucify vulnerable people who are: sick, dis-eased, ill-at-ease, mentally-ill, thirsty, hungry, homeless, imprisoned, poor, naked, harmed, women and children. Their pretensions-of-righteousness and their arrogance are thereby exposed. 2. The powers of domineering people are subverted when their true natures, motives and technologies of manipulation are graciously exposed --- yet they may then be unaware of how their powers have been subverted. 3. When domineering people excommunicate their chosen victims --- they excommunicate themselves from all their victims and all bystanders --- who are willing to perceive and discern how unworthy of honor, respect and support --- are domineering people's motives, decisions and patterns of behavior. 4. We cannot be effectively dominated by domineering people --- when we ourselves understand, transcend, and graciously subvert such people's efforts to control us. They cannot be successfully dominant without our cooperation. If we cooperate with them by trying to dominate them, we become like them --- domineering people who cannot see, hear, or understand what is happening to us and our relationships. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================