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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %BUILDING INTIMATE RELATIONSHIPS INTEGRITY HONEST+980316 %CREATIVE SPONTANEOUS AUTHENTIC DESIRES RESPONSES+980316 %PRIVACY INTRUSION ADDICTIVE CONTROL RULES LAWS 980316 While some healthy people seek in focused ways to build authentic intimate relationships which are gentle, open, honest, creative and considerate --- other insecure people seek to intrude and find handles to use in manipulating such people and their relationships. Through controls they seek to compensate for their insecurity --- for they fear honesty and vulnerability which are characteristic of healthy intimacy. Their insecurity and defensive ways --- engender insecurity and invite defensive responses on the part of those whom they seek to control. Authentic healthy relationships are not engineered in keeping with formal plans, formulas and/or specifications. Authentic healthy relationships are built bit by bit through patient exploration of mutual possibilities for cooperation which are recognized by people who desire to know each other more fully. Because of what they desire, they rarely get close to the boundaries between proper and improper explorations; even though insecure people may feel that their own fearful preoccupations with controls are not properly honored in the explorations. Some people feel insecure when they see others building healthy relationships --- in the absence of any fearful preoccupation with controls. It seems to them very dangerous and disrespectful of authority --- and so wrong. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================