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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %AFFIRM OTHER PERSON'S JOY FULFILLMENT CONTROL GOOD+951101 %EVIL GOODNESS ALIENATION PREOCCUPATION AFFIRM LOVE+951101 %HEALTHY JOY FULFILLMENT FRIEND DESIRE HOPE ASPIRE 951101 People who are preoccupied with issues of control often cannot affirm other people's joy, fulfillment, friendships, loves, achievements, desires, hopes and aspirations---because such healthy realities cannot be controlled and are not the fruits of being in control. Healthy realities cannot be achieved through controls and so people who are preoccupied with issues of control cannot find satisfaction in healthy realities. Also, it makes no sense to controllers to be pleased by how other people have been, are, or may come to be in control or transcend controls---for such is bound to be seen as a threat to one's own powers of control. Thus controllers cannot find personal satisfaction in other people's achievement of control or in other peoples's transcending controls. The transcendence of issues of control by other people is perceived as a threat to the controller's paradigm---for if other people can transcend the belief system which leads to preoccupation with control the belief system must not be worthy of ultimate respect and support. On the other hand, when other people achieve control their achievements are also a threat because controllers want to be in control themselves---as a means to achieving some personal impression of being secure. To controllers security is to be achieved by being in control---for they cannot conceive the possibility that true security might be the freedom to be safely vulnerable in the absence of preoccupations with issues of control. In light of the above; controllers cannot be truly supportive of each other, and much less can they be truly supportive of people who transcend preoccupations with issues of control. Thus controllers who are preoccupied with issues of control are trapped on dead-end streets with no hope of achieving satisfaction---and so they are often depressed and hopeless people as they discover how futile life is when trapped within preoccupations with issues of control. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================