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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %COST RISK REDUCE DEFENSIVE INSECURITY VULNERABLE+950228 %TRUST INTIMACY SEXUALITY INTEGRITY HONESTY EVIL 950228 To the defensive insecure person it seems always reasonable to take steps to reduce risk and move towards invulnerability. It always seems reasonable because the defensive insecure person cannot conceive the possibility that true security entails healthy vulnerability---and cannot conceive the high cost of always trying to reduce risk. Working to promote trust is often less costly than working to reduce risk. Always being defensive usually reduces security. Defensive people rarely work to promote trust which is the key to real security. Risk reduction and invulnerability are not the keys to security. Dishonest people who compulsively play collusive games of mutual self deception make it impossible for each other to understand how to enjoy true security, trust, risk and healthy vulnerability. To the extent that people are preoccupied with reducing risk, achieving invulnerability, defending themselves and manipulating others---to that extent those people are unable to enjoy: life, intimacy, sexuality, security, fulfillment, trust, risk and healthy vulnerability. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================