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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %LEGALIST CONTROL THOUGHT EMOTION EXPRESS BEHAVIOR+940312 %REFLEXIVE INTIMATE RELATIONSHIP COMMUNICATE KNOW 940312 Legalists are preoccupied with issues of control: who is and who is not in control, who is being controlled by whom, controlled according to what set of rules and commandments, according to what prescriptions of rewards and punishments, etc. Legalistic are preoccupied with temptations to transcend controls as well with actually breaking out of patterns of control; for legalists are engaged in collusive games of mutual self deception regarding what and how much is really being controlled. Is it only appearances which are being controlled? Are thoughts, emotions, desires and responses really being controlled? Or, are people only pretending to be under control--- in keeping with the legalists' collusive games of mutual self deception? To merit respect legalists must believe that they really are in control, not just appearing to be in control of: thoughts, emotions, desires and responses. Temptations and yielding to temptations must be under control---else the legalists' game is a futile game, which it must not be. When desires are proscribed, it is not only the fulfillment of the desires which is proscribed by the legalistic scribes: the enjoyment of the desires is proscribed, the consideration of the desires is proscribed, and talking about the desires is proscribed. Openness and honesty about proscribed desires are proscribed as well as the fulfillment of the desires. Legalists know that to truly be in control of behaviors they must truly be in control of not only desires, but also of the enjoyment of: desires, consideration of desires, openness and honesty about desires---they must all be under control in order for behaviors to be truly under control. The down-fall of the legalists is that to succeed in their systematic program of control, they must use dishonesty as a manipulative tool---and so they cannot be truly in control---to the extent and in the ways that they feel that they must pretend to be in control. They prescribe that people be truly in control of their desires, thoughts and considerations --- in keeping with legalists' prescriptions and proscriptions. They prescribe that the enjoyment of desires is just as bad as actively seeking to fulfill the desires through decisions and actions; and proscribe rebellious honesty in the face of their legalistic efforts to be dishonestly in control through their collusive games of mutual self deception. Then---they demand that nobody reveal their dishonesty, hypocrisy, and futility; and pretend that they are good people destined for heaven, and that those people of integrity who transcend the legalists' "goodness" are evil people who are destined for hell. Truly there will be a revolution in the ordering of perceptions wherever the truth is known and shared with integrity within communities where the gift of security is known as the freedom to be safely vulnerable. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================