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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9308271.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %HEALTHY LIMIT INTIMATE RELATE BOUND POSSIBLE+930827 %EXCLUSIVE INTENSE MANY FEW FRIEND ACQUAINTANCE 930827 Due to human limitations of finite: lives, powers, knowledge, understanding, energy, and attention there are limits upon what is possible as regards the number and intensity of intimate friendships and sexual relationships which can be healthy and integrative. It is dishonest and so is disintegrative to pretend that there are no natural limits. Various cultures and communities deal with the realities of human limitations in various ways. Some cultures and communities demand that their members be exclusive in their intimate relationships; only one intimate relationship per life, or only one intimate relationship at a time---so that there is time, energy, attention and interest to devote to making the one intimate relationships a "good" one. This ways of dealing with human limitations often encounters difficulties because it tends to occasion excessive levels of exclusivity and lack of honesty about intermediate levels of intimacy. Seeking to perfect this kind of solution to human limitations (as regards what is possible in regards to intimacy) often leads to dishonesty; especially when perfectionists are legalistic and judgmental towards attractive people who are not disposed as they are. Such people are discouraged from being honest about their intermediate levels of intimacy with each other; because multiple intimate relationships are in effect taboo. The rules are vague and lend themselves to biased enforcement. In a healthy community of cooperative healthy people there is honesty about human limitations in regards to how many and how intensive the intimate relationships of each person can be, but people are not imprisoned by technocratic rules about what they are authorized, permitted or required to do as regards intimacy. Healthy people openly and honestly describe their own limits and learn from each other about the possibilities for human intimacy in the face of human limitations as regards time, energy, attention, etc. Healthy people are not compulsively preoccupied with generating, enforcing and making judgements about prescriptions regarding human intimacy as a technical solution to the dilemmas relating to human limitations pertaining to time, energy, attention, etc. Healthy people are open and honest about their own limitations and encourage each other deal openly and honestly with their limitations. It does take courage some times to acknowledge our limitations and deal with them openly and honestly, thus we often need en-courage-ment. We never need dis-courage-ment in dealing with our limitations. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================