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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9304012.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %REJECT CHALLENGE ACCEPT DUEL ADDICT CONTROL 930401 All too often unsuspecting people accept the challenge of addicts to try to control them; rather than be controlled by them. People assume that by trying to control the behavior of the challenging addict it will be possible to avoid being controlled by them. Such dichotomous thinking, like most dichotomous thinking, is misleading. If we accept the challenge of an addict to try to control their thoughts, feelings and behavior; we thereby give the addict the power to control our thoughts, feelings and behavior. Accepting the challenge is a fatal mistake which can be corrected only by letting go of the challenge and learning how to relate openly and honestly to the addict who is playing collusive games of mutual self deception with those who accept the challenge. To accept the challenge of the addict is to become like the addict in attitude, thought and behavior; to become fixated upon issues of control, imperfection, and fixing imperfections. It is to become enmeshed in the insane logic of the challenge to a duel, in which participants inevitably die by agreeing to participate in the ritual of the duel. The society which shows respects for the ritual of addictive attempts to be in control, is a society which has become an addict, and respects addictive duels to the death of all participants in the collusive games of mutual self deception of participants and participant spectators. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================