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This is http://www.essayz.com/a9303081.htm Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %RESOLUTION VIOLENCE WAR TERROR ADDICT CODEPEND 930308 The root of many tragic conflicts may be found in the denial of the possibility of conflicts existing between our own sincere beliefs, convictions, ideals and values; and the sincere beliefs, convictions, ideals and values of other people of integrity. Too often we believe that conflicts can exist only between good people on one side (us) and people who are evil, negligent, selfish, faulty, defective, or wrong on the other side (them). Too often we believe that we are sincere, reasonable, right, just, righteous, justifiable and bound to win---if only we maintain the conflict long enough. We and our enemies are alike in believing that we will win if only we prolong the conflict, renew our dedication to old ideals and values, and are persistent. We all feel that God must be on our side, because we know we are righteous in our demands. The truth is that most tragic conflicts are conflicts between people who are sincere in their support of conflicting ideals, values, beliefs and convictions. The essence of a tragic conflict is to be found in the sincerity of the participants who fail to try to communicate, listen to and understand each other. They accept their alienation as normal and natural, and try to use it as a tool with which to defeat each other; rather than acknowledge that their alienation is their mutual enemy which they need to transcend through dialogue and cooperation. The truth is that most tragedies are rooted in an inadequate commitment to listen to the truth, to seek the truth, to speak the truth. Most tragedies are rooted in our collusive games of mutual self deception, as we play out the tragic logic of our commitments to our addictions and to our patterns of codependent support of our addicts. We refuse to be honest about the nature of our conflicts with our enemies; who are a great deal like us in their parallel compulsive commitments to their collusive ways of thinking, feeling and believing---all of which are rooted in situations like our own dysfunctional families of origin and our own childish responses to the dysfunctionality. We and they cannot be honest about and mourn the tragedies of our childhoods, and so we replay them in our adult lives; creating new generations of conflict ridden children who will perpetuate our tragic traditions in sincere unresolved conflicts during their adult lives as adult children of unresolved conflict. (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================