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This is Previous-Essay <== This-Essay ==> Following-Essay Click HERE on this line to find essays via Your-Key-Words. {Most frequent wordstarts of each essay will be put here.} ========================================================== %CORPORATE COMMUNAL INSTITUTION EVIL SIN ALIEN+921105 %MOURN DEATH FRIEND LOVER COLLUSION ADDICTION HABIT 921105 If we do not mourn the death of a friend or lover we may not accept the reality of the death of our friend or lover; refusing/failing to mourn may be part of our continuing pattern of pretending that our friend or lover will live forever. Mourning is the process of coming to terms with a reality which we need to accept, deal with, and move on. If we refuse to mourn, we may be refusing to be honest about reality; and we will not be able to deal wisely with our reality. If we are participants in a pattern of collusive games of mutual self deception, addictive habits, or codependent attitudes and behaviors; then our challenge is even greater than is the one we face when we are confronted with the death of a friend or lover. There are objective aspects of the death of a friend or lover which confronts us more directly than do the deadly aspects of collusions, addictions and codependencies. What is so deadly about collusions, addictions and codependencies is our persistent pattern of denying the reality of our involvement in them; and denying that we are both creators of, and victims of them. They are our friends and lovers, whom we do not want to let go; even though they are deadly and they are killing us. It is hard enough to mourn and to come honestly to terms with the physical death of a friend or lover. It is harder to come honestly to terms with the death of what has been an intense and satisfying personal relationship especially---when the other person is still alive and among our associates. It is yet harder to come honestly to terms with the need for us to let go of our deadly collusions, addictions and codependencies---when our associates, friends and family around us continue to affirm them, live them, and expect us to live them in respected conformal life- styles which are richly rewarded. When society becomes an addict how are we to heal ourselves as individuals apart from corporate healing? (c) 2005 by Paul A. Smith in (On Being Yourself, Whole and Healthy) ==========================================================